Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Eating alone

Table for one by Kevin Day
Now that I'm a highfalutin reporter, traveling to the city for meetings with my editor, I find myself staying in hotel rooms alone and, in turn, eating in restaurants alone. For some, that might seem like a nightmare. "A table for one, please." What scary words! But, the truth is, these days, I kind of enjoy eating a meal alone. I find myself the coziest table, tucked away in a quiet corner. I bring a book or a newspaper. I order myself a well-deserved pint of Keiths and I settle myself in for an hour of me time. I order exactly what I'm craving and as I wait, I take out my notebook and jot down a to-do list for the evening or the next day or I write a few blog ideas or a few words that are inspiring me. I read. I think. I look around, and I do my best not to feel self-conscious as others stare at me wonderingly. Sometimes, I even venture to guess what those minds are thinking. Are they wondering why I'm alone? Are they guessing I'm a traveling business woman? Do they think  I look pathetic or empowered? It's hard to tell. But, either way, all that matters is that I'm content. My table is full of papers, books and notebooks. My pen is at the ready. In front of me is a delicious meal and quenching my thirst is a cold beer. Life is good.

Do you ever eat alone? Do you find it awkward or empowering?

25 comments:

  1. I love eating alone because then I can do all the things you described. I just love some quiet time! xxx

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  2. I find eating alone awkward, plus I'd rather get takeout so I can wear my comfiest, ugliest clothes while I indulge. :P

    -Lindsey

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  3. I've only eaten alone a few times, and I loved it. For me, it was the perfect time to study for school.

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  4. I don't think I've ever eaten alone, it's one of those things that I would like to do. I'm sure it will be totally empowering when I accomplish it. I always see people who do and like you said above, wonder why? Hopefully someday soon..

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  5. I agree, i think eating alone can sometimes be so therapeutic! You get to relax and read AND you don't have to cook for yourself! Win win for all :)

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  6. I'm an only child & have always enjoyed my own company so I often eat alone but some people do look at me pityingly, as though I've been stood up haha xx

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  7. Agreed! :) xx

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  8. I like eating alone. It rearey happens anymore, but I don't mind it a bit! :)

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  9. I've never really ate alone much, but I definitely think it's something I might start doing.

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  10. Such a good perspective! I'll try and remember this next time I eat alone.

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  11. i dont think i've actually ever gone out to dinner by myself - not that i wouldn't but..well im a hermit..who is married hahah if i were to ever have to travel and be in a fun new city by myself- i definitely wouldn't have any problems with it. i used to actually go to movies by myself all the time and i rememebr friends thinking i was so crazy.

    i awalys wondered why people think going to the movies alone is weird- i mean you are not going their for social hour, right?!

    xx
    trisha
    veranellies.blogspot.com

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  12. As you know, for me eating alone has its ups and downs, but most of the time I enjoy it; especially when the meal I made turns out better than I had anticipated. Rijnland36

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  13. usually the only time I eat alone at restaurants is when I'm travelling, particularly at airports. I always feel awkward (usually because sitting in the chair across the table from me is a giant bag of luggage).

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  14. I very rarely get the opportunity to eat alone in a restaurant, though I'm not completely opposed. You seem to be enjoying it so maybe I'll make some time for it someday :)

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  15. That first sentence instantly sent me back to Sex and the City, haha. Lovely post, such a nice little read. Visiting from the Tuesday Tango link up, but I was already a follower, hehe.

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  16. I LOVE EATING ALONE (equally as much as I love going out and eating with other people, because I LOVE THAT, TOO). It gives me time to just chill, let my brain relax, enjoy some quality alone time avec moi, people watch, be creative, etc.

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  17. I love eating alone. I fucking HATE trying to have a conversation while eating. Unless you're Jordan and I don't care if you see me with chocolate on my face or spinach in my teeth, you will find me being dreadfully quiet if we're eating together. I eat lunch alone every day and it is a joy.

    I've gone to see a couple of movies and concerts alone -- that is crazy awkward at first, but once you move past the "omg I'm totally the only one who's alone" stuff, it's actually enjoyable. For me, it feels like I'm in on a secret no one else in that theater knows, and like I'm strengthening my sense of self-confidence and security. It's interesting to think how heavily we rely on other people and connectivity during every activity and empty moment... I've been trying to keep my phone in my pocket on trains and just be okay with not seeking stimulation out of discomfort.

    It sure ain't easy, though...

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    1. btw I don't eat chocolate and spinach at the same time, that's gross

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  18. Your routine sounds like mine! I adore being around people (I work in a tasting room at a winery so I literally talk to people all day everyday for about 8 hours) BUT I'm an only child and sort or a natural introvert so "me time" in vital. I love eating out alone. I actually took myself to brunch on new year's day! I sat there with my coffee, biscuits & gravy and got a bunch of photos edited - it was bliss!

    Love this post!

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  19. I tend to feel super awkward eating alone, because one time I did it and a child asked his mom 'why that lady was sitting alone,' hahaha. During fire season, though, it's a necessity just to get my ass out of the house while Rob's gone! I like hearing your thoughts on it :)

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  20. Awesome. I always had to 'force' myself to do this back before family life. I'd sit in a coffee shop - but hide behind my journal ;o)
    Do you know of Tanya Davis?

    Must watch THIS!! ;o)
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7X7sZzSXYs

    xx
    mel
    needle and nest

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  21. I used to have a "me" day every week. I took myself to the dollar theater on 1/2 price day and then I'd have a cheap dinner date with whatever book I was reading at the time :) It was the best. I should start doing that again! I loved it!

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  22. I just love eating out alone - it is one of life's simple indulgences. I love to write my diary at those moments.

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  23. I love to go to a restaurant and eat out alone. As long as I have my book It's A OK.

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  24. i love eating alone. i travel pretty frequent too for work, and sometimes i just eat alone. it's the time when i just all tangled in my own thoughts. i love to go to the coffee alone too. spending time there to read or do some work

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